Coping with a Crying Child
Babies cry for a variety of reasons. Sometimes the cause is simple discomfort, like a wet diaper or an empty stomach.
Sometimes infants cry because they are too hot or too cold. Pain, particularly pain caused by intestinal upsets, can result in lots of crying.
Some babies cry because they’re lonely.
New parents find out fairly quickly that some cries have no identifiable cause. Dealing with crying that has no apparent cause can often be the most difficult to handle.
The issue of responding to crying children is complicated by a common view that too much responsiveness may result in spoiled children. Will you spoil your baby if you respond promptly to his/her cries? Will your baby cry more or less if you give this kind of attention?
Try to avoid training your baby to cry, as this is how they learn to trust the world around them. When your baby cries and a trusted adult tends to their needs, they start to feel more confident about their world and will cry less frequently. On the other hand, if you try to train your baby to cry, such as using the ‘cry it out method’, you’ll find that your baby doesn’t feel that their needs are met and they won’t trust their environment and could cry longer and harder until someone arrives to help soothe them.
How should you respond to crying?
The best cure for a crying child is to pick them up, hold, cuddle, soothe, and love your baby. Each time you provide a prompt response to your baby’s cry, they’ll slowly learn to trust in you and start learning some self-soothing skills. Babies are pretty adaptable by nature.
What if you are not free to respond promptly?
If you’re unable to respond promptly to your baby’s cry, then you can consider some of the following options to help soothe your upset child.
Finally, remember that crying is your baby’s first communication technique. Crying is his/her way of talking to you. At first, you may not know the language, but as you get to know your baby better, you will find that you can read his/her cries more and more accurately as time passes. Accept crying as your baby’s very first language – a special language just between you.